Pretty or Ugly. Who Has Better?
Have you heard this expression: “Pretty girls have it easier in life?”
Pretty girls can get away with a ticket, be noticed by guys, get a drink in a bar, etc. Ugly girls are not privileged for that. Rather, they are targets for bullies, and often are disliked or generally disregarded. In addition, if an ugly girl wears glasses, no make up, or unstylish clothes her position declines even more. Some ugly girls feel intimidated in presence of a pretty girl so they stay quiet, and therefore – unnoticed.
However, there is also expression that pretty girls don’t have brains, right? In this case, pretty girls are viewed as stupid. And if she has blond hair then she must be a brain dead!! At work, pretty girls are frequently under a microscope as if others awaiting them to make a mistake. The smallest flaw is magnified and used as an opportunity to put on a label: stupid and incompetent! Meanwhile, ugly girls at work are often categorized as unattractive, but smarter – the geeks! Here goes another stereotype: if she wears glasses then she looks smart. Have you ever been told that if you have a question then you should ask that girl with glasses? She must have the right answers.
Yet, if you want a date then ask that pretty girl. In this scenario, going out with a pretty girl scores big. Also, Instagram favors pretty girls over intellects. Girls in bikini tend to have way more followers than accomplished female scientists.
Therefore, which girl has more opportunities? Who has better chance to meet Mr. Right? Who has it easier?
As I see it, average person has the sweet spot. Girl must not be too pretty or not too ugly because very pretty intimidates while too ugly repels. If you fall on either side of these extremes, you are likely – screwed!
Similarly, who has better in school settings: genius vs. bad student? Exceptionally smart kids and kids who struggle don’t blend in with others, and both are ideal objects for bullies because they are either too smart or not smart enough to fit in. Indeed, no matter where you are, how you look, what industry or environment you find yourself…. average person will fit in best because she does not stick out. If you are better than others in any category, you are likely discriminated against because of your exceptional abilities. This hatred is motivated by jealousy and fear. If you, however, fall behind others then you are considered inept, unsuitable, and incompatible.
To thrive in today’s society, one cannot stand out in any category. If one falls on either side of the spectrum, whatever it is (smart or not, rich or poor, talented or not, hardworking or lazy, etc.) then he or she will face injustice.
Finally, would you rather be fit or fat? Who has it easier in life. Boy, I can tell you that I have seen it all… As a fitness advocate, I should encourage people to get fit. Stay on a fitter side but without falling into extreme end of fitness, and here is why. The fitter I get the less people talk to me in a gym. Fitter = less approachable, I guess 🙂 It sure can be difficult to make friends in a gym. Talking may be mistakenly perceived as “hitting” on others. It is a fine line to walk on, especially for single individuals who in fact want to meet someone. On the other hand, less acquaintances in a gym means less socializing, and therefore, less distraction and more time to work out. However, f you chose to be super-fit then surround yourself with people who support you.
So who do you think has it easier in life? Pretty or ugly, or fit or fat?